It’s About What You DO, Not What You FEEL

“I’m committed to my body, but I don’t feel like going to the gym today.”

“I’m committed to my business, but I don’t feel like working on that project today.”

“I’m committed to my clients/members, but I don’t feel like being hospitable today.”

It’s easy to do the work when we “feel good.”  The difference between results and reasons is committing to do the work even when you don’t “feel like it.”  Your commitment must transcend how you feel.  Your commitment is a form of action that operates regardless of your feelings.  Your commitment is not demonstrated in how you say you’re going to do things or how you feel while you’re doing things. 

When you commitment transcends your feelings, your feelings will start to support your commitment.  Most of the time, it’s just about pushing through that first initial resistance.  It’s like an internal test…testing our will and fortitude, but (most of the time) it’s not a significant source of pain.  It’s just about committing to taking that first step.

And I’ll also have you consider a slightly harsher point of view… that your feelings are irrelevant! When you say you’re going to do something, you’ve committing to getting an outcome, and that commitment itself is what transcends and anything else. 

This is why writing down commitments and declaring them is important.  It makes them real…more real than the “feelings” that you may sometime have around those commitments.  If your commitments are a slave to your feelings about those commitments, you will lose the game.  If your commitments are a master to your feelings about those commitments, you will win the game.

How do you know if you’re committed to something?  Don’t look at your feelings because they are fluid (or irrelevant).  Only look at your actions…what you do to produce results.